Importance of Touch
If there is one thing that I have noticed in my brief passage through time on planet Earth and that is the importance of human contact, particularly in the young and vulnerable. The warmth and feel of another human being provides a sense of protection, comfort and assurance, but also offers mutuality and purpose.
Any form of human physical contact is a form of touching. It can range from holding hands to hugging and kissing. As with any human interaction the context of an encounter is important. Intimate sexual activity is not the same as patting someone on the back.
Chimes Media video: Human Touch
The Chimes Media “Human Touch” video focuses on how vulnerable children clamour for human contact. The original photos shown are of children in a Vietnamese orphanage. The narrative comments on the sad abandonment of babies highlighting how children hunger for attention from anyone who will give it to them. This is not a choice that they make. It is biologically driven.
Touch for Young Children
The importance of touch cannot be overstated. Many actions of touch tend to be spontaneous and do not demand anything verbal to make it happen.
Touch is a vital stimulus. It greatly helps with the development of brains and social skills as well as helping children to bond.
Touch enables physical growth and its absence can prove fatal especially for babies and small children. Tragically, it has been found (because this has actually happened) that babies that are never touched simply stop growing and die. Those babies are not voluntarily giving up on life. Their physiological design shuts them down.
Touch For All
From the outset, it is a usual practice for newborns to be placed on top of their mother’s stomach or to be cradled n the arms of carers.
Physical contact boosts the immune system and can lower blood pressure. Consequently, it reduces diseases especially those associated with the heart and blood. One study on women found that receiving more hugs from their partners led to lower heart rates and lower blood pressure and, of course, it produces similar benefits for men too.
Heart-to-heart hugs can feel satisfying and invoke the release of oxytocin even when hugging a friend, family member, or pet.
Touch and Play-fighting
Touch is positive for animals as well. Rabbits that are given physical contact and affection have been found to have 60% less chance of developing coronary problems. Other mammals are not as dissimilar to humans as we might think. For example, rats, as with most other mammals, have been found to be quite social animals that engage in play fighting.
Children exposed to play fighting learn to control their physical strength and measure its application according to different situations. They will usually grow up to be healthy, more fulfilled and happier individuals.
Generally, both parties get something out of touching provided it is natural, wanted and not forced.
There is a distinction between touching that is harmful and that which is beneficial. It would not be right for a twenty year old to cling to its mother in the same way as a two year old would. Likewise, there would be something wrong if a toddler decided to give intimate kisses to an adult. That would suggest the child had been subject to sexual abuse training (as when children are placed under the control of paedophiles).
Tyranny of Ideology
Unfortunately, one of the scourges of our time, which is arguably the most abusive and pernicious aspects of human behaviour, is the pathology of Political Correctness aka Cultural Marxism. This way of thinking tends to ditch context and instead embraces the notion that all forms of touching are abuse.
Touch is interpreted as a mechanism by which one person seeks to exert power and control over another. It re-interprets mutuality and non-verbal interaction into being a malevolent act regardless of the reality. The more egregious proponents of this way of thinking will insist that human interaction become subject to the absurdity of formalities and demand legal contracts. Virtually every aspect of human behaviour should be approved. Spontaneity is taboo. Love is a social construct and touching is a tool of control. Affection becomes a cue for exploitation by one person over another and is just one more method of how one group maintains its power over another.
This intrusive malevolence is a stark example of totalitarian tyranny that seeks to intimately govern what we say or even what we look at.
One branch of Marxism are the radical feminists who are infamous for frothing at the mouth and proclaiming that society is controlled by the Patriarchy under which women are universally controlled. They are quick to suppress any gathering of men who meet to discuss the myriad of very real problems males face such as high suicide rates, boys failing academically or paternity rights.
Indeed, the PC Gestapo (social justice warriors) are the ultimate killjoys and winey wingers when it comes to monitoring males in case they should use their ‘male gaze’ to mind rape helpless feminists or deny seating on a train by man-spreading their legs to improve their comfort. It is not just that their assumptions are grossly prejudicial and hate-filled, but that they employ methods that are pathological. Their choice of using any means necessary to exact political control over the personal means that lying, cheating, bullying and violence are all legitimate tactics to busy-body their way into people’s lives. The affects of their actions, result in dead relationships; dead emotions and dead people.
Protect the Right of Human Touch
It is long overdue that we stand together against these delusional and authoritarian bigots that are all-too-ready to slam any form of contact as being abusive and oppressive. They refuse to recognize what a treasure human contact is and how it is common to millions of other animals as well as humans. It is not a part of some imagined oppression or tyranny. The true tyrants are those who want to eliminate it and, if they succeed it will destroy something that is very precious and human.
James A. Williams
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